I have to admit that I am not good at Submodalities. The limited knowledge and the lack of practise hampers my modeling. It was almost when I decided that I will exercise the submodalities, I received two calls on the same day from special people - my cousin and my uncle. With my cousin, the conversation began friendly but gradually I noticed he is trying to cut off the rapport with heavy breathing, rough words, direct attacking. It sounded like the Principal controlling the student. He consciously swtiched over
from visual (rapport) to auditory (misrapport). There was no feeling part.
He started feeling the conversation was like a drama. Because, to my knowledge, he didn't have any need to question me. The questions posed by him were meta model questions. It didn't hurt me at all - because I was aware of what is going to happen. I didn't return my words abusing. In all, I used the conversation as an exercise.
The second caller - my uncle called me when I was asleep. He also sounded tensed. I immediately started believing my uncle and cousin had plans to call and disturb my thoughts. My uncle is a clever person. He finished the conversation smoothly.
I don't know whether both the caller got what they wanted. But that helped me made few decisions and be a different person too. I am able test how I breathe and feel when I get such "heavy voices" over phone. I realized it is possible I am vulnerable. So, immediately I dissassociated myself and hurt feeling is gone.
I dream something big - a larger community where I am going to make big difference. I don't need any motivation from outside. I have enough. I am doing it in the right pace. I am giving off all that I could do. But you both have striken with the wrong key. You played a game on me, fine. But you need a response, reaction - take it from me. You both are not bad - I know you both are good at your fields. But I don't want to be part of your dream.
I have decided to play a different game. While my dream is still the same.
