Being a techie

I started realizing that to be a techie, we need to BE one. That is we become what we wanted. To become what we wanted, we need to live so. It’s a simple philosophy. Many dream, there are many dreamers in the world. Only a few can apply, there are only few action heroes in this world. The rest still perform but in a slow pace. I want to be a techie in Embedded Systems by end of the third quarter.

 

Subjective Comparison

Sometimes we (V) compare a person (X) with another person (Y) who has similar qualities and like/dislike the person (X). For example, I may compare your personality, mannerisms etc with that of Anthony Robbins, and builds upon the bond [Hope you like the example J ]

I may not like somebody else (X) because he looks like some villain (Y).

I would like to know how this is seen in NLP.  Here X doesnot necessarily model Y. They share common attributes as seen by us (V). That is, V does model-comparison of  X and Y, and makes judgements.

 

If there is no name for it, I would like to name it as “Subjective Comparison” {Copyrighted J)

 

I think this understanding/awareness is significant in relationships. This leads to prejudice.

 

As V does comparison, V uses language like

 

“Somehow I like the person..”  (Positive effect)

“I don’t know why I don’t like the person..”  (Negative effect)

“You often remind me of my friend…” (Positive/Negative effect).

 

Okay, now we need to see where this awareness is useful. If X realizes V has positive/negative impression on X, X has to find from V what makes V believe so.

 

Job seekers' excuses

I have been interacting with job seekers for the last few years. My
observations are :

Many job seekers are anxious, not organized; they do not sell
themselves; they wear low self esteem to mildly high self esteem;
carry a load of excuses; they network a lot but are not prepared.

According to me, of the above, 'carrying a load of excuses' is really
detrimental to the job search/ growth. Carrying excuses always binds
us to our comfort zone. There is growth only if we come out of our
comfort zone. Carrying excuses and also doing job search will have
only neutral effect. Most of the job seekers "move away" to face the
competition internally.

The remedy is define "moving towards" objectives - "what do I REALLY
want ?" and "what is my next MOVE ?"

My Theme Color

Every year I used to have "Theme Colour".
For 2004, it was Green and Orange. This represents creativity.
For 2005, it is White and Orange. This represents "new", "fresh", "active".
(Hope you didnt mind the above color representation)

Before 2004, I had red as my theme. It didnt mean anything. I started it as experimental. My favorite colour is the aqua blue. Beautiful color.

I even had a life theme few years back - "accelerate". But I didnt do much to represent it. Another theme was "Seize the day"; and another one was "Make each day your masterpiece"..

Now I dont have any. Contemplating to have one.
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I think I have one already...WALK TALL.

Structure of Self Esteem

A person with a very HIGH self-esteem has an intense form and positive content. A person with a very LOW self-esteem has -NOT- just opposite : intense but negative content. Another interesting combination is MILDLY HIGH and MILDLY LOW: A person with mildly high self-esteem is still good but only the intensity has to be increased. A person with mildly low self-esteem need to change both his thoughts and intensity. In general, very high self-esteem is mostly represented by positive self-image. Exercises I can think of improving the self esteem : 1. Place yourself in middle of a big open auditorium. See yourself 360 deg (Matrix style). As you revolve around yourself, see yourself powerful 2. Tap your finger tips and tell yourself that the intensity is increasing 3. Drink lots of water after any thought-exercises 4. See yourself in bright colours. 5. See yourself in black&white, do a swish to see yourself in bright colours. Do this swish atleast 20 times every one hour :)

Change Mood with Reframe+Swish

Today I wanted to get up at 5 am but couldn’t; I woke up at 6.30 am. It was a great surprise to see the rain pouring heavily. Normally I used to connect rains as a ‘good sign’. But today I didn’t reflect that way. I skipped my Embedded system class. I came to office, but I was not having a very great mood. The mood was progressively dipping low. I didn’t focus on my work. I was comparing myself with other technical people here. I attempted to take help from many people at the same time on some issue. I yelled at my wife when she called me on my mobile. I imagined that someone is late to office because the person is not well. I repeatedly attempted to call the person on mobile which was switched off. Fine..these are all patterns; signs of restlessness.

 

At 3.15 pm, I decided I should NOT remain in the same state. I went to wash room, started washing my face. As I washed my face, I was asking myself what is the color of the ‘gloomy mood’. The answer was ‘dark brown’ (not black). I thought I would quickly do a sort of reframing exercise. I located the gloomy feeling – it was near my belly point. I could see an aura of dark brown there. I asked it whether it is okay to change the color. I got a ‘nod’. I asked what color can I have so that I am in empowering mood. The instant answer was ‘silver white’. It’s a new colour to me but I still saw it. I quickly did swish - Repeatedly..with intensity. I was doing all these, while washing my face, looking at the mirror and wiping my face. By the time, I was out of the wash room, both reframing and swish was over.

 

I AM completely FRESH & ENERGETIC !!!

 

Its 3.38 pm. Going for coffee to celebrate.

 

Habit - deleted

One habit that has been consciously deleted was “Worrying !!!”. NLP is just wonderful. I kept on practising the reframing and third perspective exercises. The habitual worry is not there. However I do worry – the right word is think with care – about what is essential.
Many of the NLP exercises wont work, if you don’t do it with intensity and repetition. This is my personal learning.

My new interests

My new interests these days are

* Aquarium

* Image Processing

* Embedded Systems

* Prosperity

Nothing much to talk about this now. I will revisit this post in leisure.

Power of rituals

Power of rituals

I am very sure about the power of rituals. Rituals create powerful neurological connections that are difficult to be broken. Rituals are both positive and negative. They are negative because beyond a point (when ?) we forget the actual value of practising the ritual. The positve point is that they reduce our conscious effort (which is also called least effort). Least effort is something that comes very naturally to you. When the phone rings, you don’t struggle to attend a call. You naturally put the receiver on and start speaking.

The most common rituals are habits. For me, reading is a very powerful habit. I cant break it. Writing is another one.

I can create some powerful rituals for myself. It takes 21 days for a habit to get installed in us – continuous 21 days.

But I feel, if practised with intensity, supported with enough ‘why’s, and by creating a powerful need, the habits can be formed in less than formula 21 days.

I can create two packages of rituals to have variety and fun. Let me not have a lengthy list; restrict to five.

Package 1	Package 2
Pranayama NLP exercise from Steven Instant Idea (Creative time) Forgiveness and Gratitude exercise Eat a friut	Pushups Situps Instant Poem (Creative time) Read and record technical information Plan for every two days

Let me record this for next 21 days and analyze the results.