I have identified few people (how many) with whom I can practise my Precision Questions.
When you dream of being someone in the future, don’t just look for opportunities. Also notice that ‘opportunity speaks’.
I have started learning PhotoReading. I am in the first step. I have created an anchor for myself that “as soon as I open the book, a Flash Light flashes engulfing the entire facing pages (as though a photograph is clicked first to take the snapshot of the page). This is my anchor and I have installed using Swish technique.
I started realizing that to be a techie, we need to BE one. That is we become what we wanted. To become what we wanted, we need to live so. It’s a simple philosophy. Many dream, there are many dreamers in the world. Only a few can apply, there are only few action heroes in this world. The rest still perform but in a slow pace. I want to be a techie in Embedded Systems by end of the third quarter.
Sometimes we (V) compare a person (X) with another person (Y) who has similar qualities and like/dislike the person (X). For example, I may compare your personality, mannerisms etc with that of Anthony Robbins, and builds upon the bond [Hope you like the example J ]
I may not like somebody else (X) because he looks like some villain (Y).
I would like to know how this is seen in NLP. Here X doesnot necessarily model Y. They share common attributes as seen by us (V). That is, V does model-comparison of X and Y, and makes judgements.
If there is no name for it, I would like to name it as “Subjective Comparison” {Copyrighted J)
I think this understanding/awareness is significant in relationships. This leads to prejudice.
As V does comparison, V uses language like
“Somehow I like the person..” (Positive effect)
“I don’t know why I don’t like the person..” (Negative effect)
“You often remind me of my friend…” (Positive/Negative effect).
Okay, now we need to see where this awareness is useful. If X realizes V has positive/negative impression on X, X has to find from V what makes V believe so.
Today I wanted to get up at 5 am but couldn’t; I woke up at 6.30 am. It was a great surprise to see the rain pouring heavily. Normally I used to connect rains as a ‘good sign’. But today I didn’t reflect that way. I skipped my Embedded system class. I came to office, but I was not having a very great mood. The mood was progressively dipping low. I didn’t focus on my work. I was comparing myself with other technical people here. I attempted to take help from many people at the same time on some issue. I yelled at my wife when she called me on my mobile. I imagined that someone is late to office because the person is not well. I repeatedly attempted to call the person on mobile which was switched off. Fine..these are all patterns; signs of restlessness.
At 3.15 pm, I decided I should NOT remain in the same state. I went to wash room, started washing my face. As I washed my face, I was asking myself what is the color of the ‘gloomy mood’. The answer was ‘dark brown’ (not black). I thought I would quickly do a sort of reframing exercise. I located the gloomy feeling – it was near my belly point. I could see an aura of dark brown there. I asked it whether it is okay to change the color. I got a ‘nod’. I asked what color can I have so that I am in empowering mood. The instant answer was ‘silver white’. It’s a new colour to me but I still saw it. I quickly did swish - Repeatedly..with intensity. I was doing all these, while washing my face, looking at the mirror and wiping my face. By the time, I was out of the wash room, both reframing and swish was over.
I AM completely FRESH & ENERGETIC !!!
Its 3.38 pm. Going for coffee to celebrate.
My new interests these days are
* Aquarium
* Image Processing
* Embedded Systems
* Prosperity
Nothing much to talk about this now. I will revisit this post in leisure.
Power of rituals
I am very sure about the power of rituals. Rituals create powerful neurological connections that are difficult to be broken. Rituals are both positive and negative. They are negative because beyond a point (when ?) we forget the actual value of practising the ritual. The positve point is that they reduce our conscious effort (which is also called least effort). Least effort is something that comes very naturally to you. When the phone rings, you don’t struggle to attend a call. You naturally put the receiver on and start speaking.
The most common rituals are habits. For me, reading is a very powerful habit. I cant break it. Writing is another one.
I can create some powerful rituals for myself. It takes 21 days for a habit to get installed in us – continuous 21 days.
But I feel, if practised with intensity, supported with enough ‘why’s, and by creating a powerful need, the habits can be formed in less than formula 21 days.
I can create two packages of rituals to have variety and fun. Let me not have a lengthy list; restrict to five.
Package 1 | Package 2 |
Pranayama NLP exercise from Steven Instant Idea (Creative time) Forgiveness and Gratitude exercise Eat a friut | Pushups Situps Instant Poem (Creative time) Read and record technical information Plan for every two days |
Previously when friends ask me in frustrated tone “what do you think about stopping this activity”, habitually I log on to the “grandfather mode”, and start advising on various aspects. The friend who would derive pleasure on talking negatively more on the subject would drag the conversation to any limit he could.
This time, I received a mail from my friend who apparently sounded dejected wrote “what do you think about divorce ?”.
My mind alerted me not to log on to the “grandfather mode”.
I replied back “what is there to think about ?”.
After that, there were mails from my friend but not on the divorce subject.
On an average, I am able to maintain 8.5 as my State. Just before I goto sleep, I am maintaining a state of almost 10 because of why I am not able to sleep immediately. May be I used to reduce my state to 5 or so, and then sleep.
I am able to do this, because I am able to diffuse stress easily. I see the stress a stuffy cloud before me, seeking my attention. If I feel the stress, I immediately move this cloud few feet away from me. Most of the time the low priority works create stress and steal our energy too. For example, today after coming to office (Monday morning), I remembered Citibank, Airtel, Dishnet, and Whirlpool still have some of my complaints open and havent come back on that. They are of low priority. They are not worth handling this Monday morning. I immediately procrastinated telling myself “anyway I can take care of them leisure”; as I do this I also visualize the cloud is several feet away – they look powerless, less significant, and not rain-bearing !!!
That’s my secret of maintaining 8.5
My work load doesn’t take me to state 10; but my other personal interests take me to 10 most of the time.
